NORFOLK, Va. — Killing, harming or threatening to harm beloved pets are weapons used by domestic abusers to manipulate victims into silence, but new legislation by Virginia U.S. Senators Mark Warner and Tim Kaine would extend protections to survivors and their pets.
The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention describes "intimate partner violence" as sexual, physical or psychological harm by heterosexual or same-sex partners.
Rob Blizard, executive director of the Norfolk Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals, said he's heard of many situations where women would not leave their abusers to go to a women's shelter because they are concerned about leaving their pet behind.
Blizard believes the PAWS Act is needed to stop those who would use the comfort animals provide to harm others.
"One of the things it does is authorize a grant program to help women's shelters open spaces to accept pets,” Blizard said, "meaning that they could both get out of a bad situation."
According to Blizard, only 3 percent of domestic violence shelters in the U.S. accept pets. The legislation would expand existing federal domestic-violence protections to include threats or acts of violence against a pet.
The bill also requires the full amount of the victim's losses for purposes of restitution in domestic violence and stalking offenses to include any costs incurred for veterinary services relating to physical care for the victim's pet.
Blizard said there are multiple studies showing that victims have a lot of consideration for their pets. One study found that as many as 25 percent of survivors returned to an abusive partner out of concern for a pet.
"They will go after the pet, according to what I have read and heard,” Blizard explained. "It sort of implies, you know, 'If you don't do what I want, this is what I'm going to do to your dog or cat,’ with the message that 'I will also do this to you at some point if you're not doing what I want you to do.'"
Several agencies in Virginia would be aided by the PAWS Act by placing companion animals out of harm's way so that survivors can seek safety for themselves. You can find those agencies by visiting awionline.org.
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February is National Teen Dating Violence Awareness and Prevention Month, and young people often find it hard to navigate experiences of harm.
According to data from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention from 2021, nearly 16% of Idaho youth surveyed said they had experienced sexual violence, higher than the national average of 11%.
D Dagondon Tiegs, bilingual social change associate for the Idaho Coalition Against Sexual and Domestic Violence, said sexual violence is the result of imbalances in power.
"The tools that we have to prevent sexual violence within our communities is promoting communities that are welcoming of everyone, where everyone has what they need to be able to participate in their community, like school," Tiegs outlined. "So that they're not targeted and the power imbalance is mitigated."
Tiegs pointed out there are domestic and sexual violence programs across the state but more are needed, especially in rural communities. They also noted members of LGBTQIA+ communities and people of color are more likely to experience violence.
The rate of teen dating violence is likely much higher. Tiegs emphasized one of the biggest issues, especially when it comes to reporting, is young people don't feel heard.
"Young people are not likely to tell a trusted adult when they experience sexual violence," Tiegs explained. "They're more likely to tell a peer because adults dismiss the kind of dating violence that is happening with young people."
For someone who has experienced such of trauma, Tiegs stressed it is important to ask what they need and help the person reestablish their agency. They also added healing takes time.
"It's easy for us to be supportive at the beginning, but a consistent, ongoing supportive community and people who care about them because sexual violence and dating violence requires a long time to heal from," Tiegs concluded.
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As Kentuckians prepare for the Super Bowl this weekend, they can also help survivors of domestic violence.
At "Shop and Share," a one-day event this Saturday at Kroger, Food City and other regional grocers statewide, residents can shop for what they need and share a purchased item with their local domestic violence shelter.
Angela Yannelli, chief executive officer of ZeroV, explained while the primary focus is on safety, the group's 15 member domestic violence programs also promote survivor empowerment. She said donations of such essential items as toothbrushes and nonperishable foods are essential on the journey toward well-being and healing.
"Donations of things like cake mix, icing and decorations, for birthdays and other celebrations, bring joy into the lives of survivors who may not have been celebrated in many years, or for whom peace and joy may only come in glimpses," Yannelli observed.
Shoppers can donate at participating stores between 9 a.m. and 5 p.m., although times vary by location. Anyone interested in donating or volunteering can visit zerov.org/shopandshare to find the shopping lists and contact information for their local program.
Regional shelters in the Commonwealth have provided safe havens and resources for more than 10,000 women and 6,000 children.
Yannelli emphasized donations of small items have added up to make a huge difference.
"When you think about 'Shop and Share' collectively, it's raised more than $5 million since 2008," Yannelli pointed out. "And made a positive impact in the lives of thousands of survivors and their children."
Yannelli noted Shop and Share also offers parents an opportunity to talk with their adolescents about healthy relationships this month, for Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month. If you or someone you know needs help, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233.
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January is Stalking Awareness Month and advocates said cases of unwanted or repeated surveillance or contact, often alongside intimidation and harassment often go underreported, especially in Ohio's rural counties.
Shelby Lieber, survivor coordinator for the Ohio Alliance to End Sexual Violence, said according to the state's incident-based reporting system, agencies reported more than 1,500 cases of stalking related to 8,000 sexual assault incidents last year. Lieber pointed out the complexities around stalking can make reporting incidents to law enforcement difficult.
"Our rural counties are not reporting; they're saying it's not happening here, which we know it is happening there," Lieber observed. "Either they're not getting reported on or there's not enough evidence, because stalking in the state of Ohio is really hard to prove."
Lieber noted the Stalking Prevention, Awareness and Resource Center provides an online documentation log to help individuals keep track of every reported incident, which is especially helpful to have as evidence in a courtroom or when speaking with a first responder.
She added always err on the side of caution and call 911 or the Ohio Sexual Violence Helpline at 844-OHIO-HELP if you or someone you know feels they are in danger.
Lieber explained many survivors of sexual assault experience stalking as a form of silencing, to try to coerce them into not moving forward with legal charges. She emphasized having a safety plan is a critical tool for dealing with stalking situations and can include providing a photo of the perpetrator to employers, and making schedules unpredictable.
"If you're driving home from work, instead of taking the interstate to a certain exit that's closer to your house, could you take the interstate to an exit farther away from your house?," Lieber suggested. "Changing up that typical routine."
According to the Stalking Prevention, Awareness and Resource Center, most stalkers use technology and the internet to monitor, contact and threaten victims. Digital abuse also includes location tracking, demanding passwords and hacking into accounts. All fifty states have statutes criminalizing tech-facilitated stalking.
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