Nicole Bialko of Columbus is among the one-in-six women who've experienced stalking. And she's sharing her story to encourage other victims to stand up to stalking.

When a relationship that started online turned emotionally toxic, Bialko tried to end it. She said her former boyfriend started harassing and following her, even entering her apartment when she was out of town.

Despite her efforts to ignore him, including blocking hundreds of email addresses and phone numbers, he persisted. So Bialko contacted authorities.

"Trust your instincts, never excuse a red flag," said Bialko. "And if you find yourself making excuses for this individual, feeling unsettled, feeling isolated, maybe what you could do you're not doing anymore, things you enjoyed - there's a problem."

Bialko said she hopes to help other abuse victims free themselves from the fear of stalking. Her advice includes setting firm boundaries, collecting evidence, seeking legal advice about getting a Civil Protective Order, being vigilant about personal safety and maintaining a support system.

Bialko said the police took her seriously, but feels her case was diminished in the courts. In a plea deal, her former partner's charges of felony menacing by stalking; burglary and a protective order violation were reduced to a misdemeanor of criminal mischief.

Bialko said just like physical abuse, emotional and mental abuse is terrifying.

"If you're scared, you're scared out for a reason," said Bialko. "So there's something that individuals doing that's causing you that fear, but there's no tangible evidence. Because I can't show you a picture of a black and blue eye, I don't think it's taken as seriously. "

Caroline Anderson is the communications coordinator with the Ohio Domestic Violence Network. She encouraged friends and family members of survivors to be as supportive as possible and understand that it's difficult for a victim of abuse to simply walk out the door.

"Why didn't you leave sooner? I hate that question," said Anderson. "Why did she stay? I hate that question as advocate. She stayed because she didn't know she was in an abusive relationship. She didn't know how to leave. And leaving is the most dangerous time in a relationship. "

Anderson said most domestic-violence fatalities in Ohio occur when a survivor is in the process of ending the relationship or has already left.

The Ohio Domestic Violence Network can direct stalking survivors to local resources. There also is an easy-to-use chat feature at odvn.org for assistance.

January is National Stalking Awareness Month.

A new report showed programs serving domestic violence survivors in Ohio are stretched thin, with hundreds of people who need help being turned away due to lack of shelter.

Their advocates said maintaining state funding is critical to meet the growing demand for services.

Mary O'Doherty, executive director of the Ohio Domestic Violence Network, said the latest 24-hour census highlighted the strain on programs across the state.

"During that time, our program served 2,701 victims," O'Doherty reported. "Our programs did not have enough resources to meet 347 requests for help. Most of the people who (were) turned away were looking for emergency shelter."

According to the 19th annual Domestic Violence Counts report, conducted by the National Network to End Domestic Violence, 100% of Ohio's 75 identified domestic violence programs participated in the national count on Sept. 4 of last year, providing shelter and services to thousands statewide.

The Ohio Domestic Violence Network reported one in every two people seeking help in the state was turned away during the count due to lack of funding. O'Doherty acknowledged Ohio lawmakers are under pressure to cut state spending this session but said advocates are pushing for funding to help survivors.

"There currently is $20 million in the Ohio budget for domestic violence services," O'Doherty pointed out. "Right now, there's an extraordinary amount of pressure to cut spending, public spending, and we are working hard to make sure that the Legislature keeps those funds in the budget."

As lawmakers debate the state budget, she added concerned Ohioans can contact their state senators to express support for maintaining funding for domestic violence shelters and survivor services at current levels.

New data show a 27% increase in rape kit testing across Mississippi since the state implemented a 2023 law requiring all new sexual assault evidence to be processed.

While officials report progress on addressing the backlog, advocates cautioned the full scope of untested kits remains unknown without a complete statewide inventory. The rise follows the required testing of all new sexual assault evidence, which experts said is helping to debunk common assumptions about sexual predators.

Ilse Knecht policy director for the Joyful Heart Foundation's End the Backlog initiative said testing is uncovering critical patterns about offenders.

"Rapists are not specialists. They commit all kinds of crimes, anything from homicide to burglary to domestic violence, child abuse, you name it," Knecht explained. "They commit crimes against people they know and people they don't know. They rape acquaintances and strangers, so they cross over, many of them, and they really don't stop until they're stopped."

Despite the clearance of some kits, Knecht stressed without a full audit of Mississippi's untested evidence shelved across hospitals and law-enforcement agencies, dangerous offenders likely remain unidentified.

Knecht argued the state's testing increase, while positive, only addresses part of the problem. She redirects focus to survivors, describing forensic exams as "very invasive and uncomfortable" even under ideal conditions.

"Nobody wants to go through that but survivors do it because they want that person who hurt them really to be held accountable," Knecht pointed out. "Many survivors that I talk to also say that they don't want that person to hurt anybody else."

Advocates said the findings underscore the need for continued testing and better coordination between law enforcement and victim services. As Mississippi works through its backlog, they say each processed kit could reveal connections to other unsolved crimes across the state.


get more stories like this via email

By Mary Claire Molloy for Mirror Indy.
Broadcast version by Joe Ulery for Indiana News Service reporting for the Mirror Indy-Free Press Indiana-Public News Service Collaboration.

A little more than a year after launching a plan to address the needs of Black women, the Domestic Violence Prevention Network is in turmoil.

For months, several staff have been challenging leadership over concerns that the nonprofit is failing to meet the plan’s promise following what they describe as years of mismanagement and toxic workplace culture. Since 2022, two Black employees have been fired and there have been at least four resignations, including by two Black employees. One of them filed an Equal Employment Opportunity Commission complaint.

The conflict came to a head in February. That’s when nine unnamed employees submitted a nearly 70-page letter to the nonprofit’s board, detailing their complaints about the organization’s executive director at the time.

In the letter, the employees called for her to be fired.

“We cannot, in good conscience, continue to promote inclusivity, equity and healthy relationships if those principles are not genuinely reflected within the organization itself,” staff wrote in the letter.

The tensions couldn’t come at a worse time. The nonprofit is already at risk of losing some funding as the Trump administration targets programs that focus on diversity, equity and inclusion. DVPN has locked down parts of its website, including information about programming and an about page.

It’s also a bad time for Indianapolis, a city where Black residents face a disproportionate amount of domestic violence. For years, DVPN has provided an important service here, helping thousands of victims by training community members and local organizations to recognize signs of abuse.

Now, the nonprofit is leaderless. A week after employees sent the letter to the board, executive director Kelly McBride resigned, ending her nearly 12-year tenure leading the organization.

Reached by phone, McBride declined a Mirror Indy request for an interview but agreed to respond to emailed questions.

“These claims are false and inconsistent with my character and leadership style,” McBride wrote March 17. “At no time did I behave in an illegal, improper or unethical manner.”

McBride did not specifically answer Mirror Indy’s question about why she resigned. But in an email to supporters and community members, McBride said she “decided to embark on a new chapter in my professional journey.”

The nonprofit’s board, meanwhile, told staff in a March 10 email about plans to update the organization’s discrimination policies and provide harassment training. That decision came after the board hired an attorney to conduct an internal investigation.

Board president Kristen Moreland declined to specifically answer Mirror Indy’s questions about allegations of a toxic workplace and the experiences of Black staff under McBride. In a phone call, Moreland said she couldn’t comment because they were confidential personnel matters.

In a follow-up statement emailed to Mirror Indy, Moreland said McBride’s resignation was a “personal decision” and noted the internal investigation found no evidence of illegal activity.

“Our priority remains clear and focused: supporting victims of domestic violence, promoting prevention efforts and enhancing the services we provide to our community,” the statement said, in part.

To do that, according to 12 current or former employees interviewed by Mirror Indy, the nonprofit’s board must first repair the years of harm. But most remain skeptical about the board’s motives, believing the members are trying to maintain a positive image publicly while neglecting their duties inside the workplace.

Mirror Indy agreed not to publicly identify the current employees because they feared they would be fired for speaking to journalists.

That fear appears to be justified. On March 10, Moreland sent an email to staff saying they could lose their jobs for speaking with the media.

“They’re trying to make it look like DVPN isn’t as harmful and dysfunctional as we are,” one employee said.

‘I was the Black poster child’

Niesha Neal, 44, knows what it’s like to suffer in silence. She carries the scars from being stabbed by a previous partner.

Two decades later, in September 2021, she started working for the Domestic Violence Prevention Network to help other survivors.

Inside the office, though, Neal said she was underpaid and tokenized by McBride.

Neal is one of at least four Black staff members who have been fired or resigned under McBride’s leadership since 2022. All told Mirror Indy their departures were part of a pattern at the organization: They said Black employees were paraded around donors and community members, then discarded when leadership decided they weren’t useful anymore.

Neal said McBride “dumbed down” her title to pay her less than the previous person who held the same position, according to an Equal Employment Opportunity Commission complaint filed in February 2023. At the same time, according to the complaint, McBride, who is white, sent Neal to predominantly Black neighborhoods — including a time when Neal said she was told she needed to be “the face of DVPN” in a community video “if she wanted to get paid.”

“I was the Black poster child for the organization,” said Neal, who resigned in October 2022.

The last straw was fried chicken. That’s what McBride wanted to serve people in Martindale Brightwood for a Thanksgiving meal, Neal said.

“Out of every protein we could serve the Black community,” said Neal, pointing to the damaging history of the racial stereotype. “I was taken aback.”

In her statement to Mirror Indy, McBride did not specifically address the concerns about the Thanksgiving meal.

“I have worked hard to ensure that education and support services are available throughout all areas of our community,” McBride told Mirror Indy in her statement, “especially with historically marginalized communities.”

McBride also said that she initiated a study to ensure staff were being compensated “fairly and competitively,” and noted that the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission found no wrongdoing by her or DVPN.

Neal, however, said the commission gave her the right to file a discrimination lawsuit and the matter was resolved through her lawyers. She declined to specify whether she reached a settlement with the nonprofit.

In 2023, Elle Roberts and Charlie Redd were hired to start a restorative justice program, which focuses on repairing harm. They would use a $250,000 grant from the Hogsett administration and the Indianapolis Foundation to lead healing circles with victims and perpetrators of domestic violence in predominantly Black neighborhoods.

But in a letter shared with the board, Roberts and Redd said they were abruptly ousted in June 2024 after McBride verbally accused them of “stealing” the restorative justice framework from the organization to start their own projects.

McBride did not respond to Mirror Indy’s questions about the reason behind the terminations.

Roberts and Redd said they were hired because of their past work freelancing in wellness and equity spaces, and they still don’t have formal documentation about why they were fired.

“The wildest thing is that nobody owns restorative justice,” said Redd, 35. “This is a pattern of leadership being so flippant with the hiring and firing of Black queer people.”

Redd and Roberts said McBride verbally cited two other reasons for their terminations: They used “outdated” marketing materials and took too long to respond to emails.

That reminded Imani Jones of their time at DVPN. The 26-year-old said they resigned as the youth program coordinator in March 2024 after finding out leadership had documented six infractions against them.

“There was no communication about what I did wrong,” Jones said. “I didn’t feel safe.”

Witnessing Roberts and Redd’s firings — among others — reminded them of their own abusive childhood home.

“It’s the way they just give people infractions and fire them and then say they have grant money and can send you on trips,” Jones said. “Throwing gifts on top of issues and errors to keep people comfortable.”

Board threatens staff with terminations

Multiple employees interviewed by Mirror Indy said they felt hopeful in January 2024 when the nonprofit announced the “Beyond Equity” plan to focus on the needs of Black women.

At a launch event that month, McBride said the nonprofit would move beyond “white feminism.”

Since then, though, the employees said they’ve grown frustrated by the organization’s failure to address the concerns of employees. Now, they believe the publicly released plan was for posturing more than anything else.

Six employees spoke to Mirror Indy on the condition that they not be publicly identified because they feared they would lose their job or otherwise face retaliation from DVPN. Another two employees initially agreed to be identified, but then asked to withdraw their names from this article.

That happened after Moreland, the president, emailed staff to tell them it was against policy to discuss “confidential personnel information” with the media.

“If we learn that any employee has violated this policy, (they) may be subject to discipline, up to or including termination,” Moreland wrote.

In follow-up emails, Moreland sent a list of talking points developed by a PR firm to share with funders and the public.

“We are in crisis communication mode,” Moreland wrote in a March 14 email.

Employees said the board didn’t take their concerns seriously until they started speaking to journalists. And rather than spending money on the mission, they said, the board is protecting the Domestic Violence Prevention Network’s image.

One employee pointed to a portion of the PR document: “What is DVPN doing to address the harm caused by this situation?”

“As an organization committed to restorative justice, we are taking steps to acknowledge, address and correct any harms caused,” the PR response said. “We believe in leading by example and in the power of collective action to heal and move forward.”


Mary Claire Molloy wrote this article for Mirror Indy.


get more stories like this via email